your vibe

… attracts your tribe

I remember being about 7 years old and thinking “what is the actual point of this life and why am I here?” It seemed pretty boring and confusing to me. Most people are born, go to school, go to university, or get a job, get married, have children or not, get divorced (or not), retire, have grandchildren (or not) and then die. With some exceptions, many of us are indifferent about the job that we do; “it’s fine and it pays the bills”. If you had a choice, would you choose to live this way? What would you do if you realised that you had the choice all along? 

We live life in the experience of our thinking and our conditioning and so if we think it’s a certain way, then that is how it will be. Many people believe that they must make things happen and that if they don’t, they worry that they’ll end up lying on the sofa all day watching Netflix. We also are conditioned to believe that we must work really hard to be entitled to receive something – neither of these things are true. Every single human is a limitless being, with the ability to manifest their desires into physical reality. 

Let’s unravel what that means?

First, we must know that everything is energy and that includes us. We vibrate at a certain frequency and that sends out messages in various forms. If you look at the image below, what is the first word that jumps out at you – it’s possible, that’s where you are vibrating right now. The image is taken from Power vs Force by David Hawkins, which describes frequency and the ‘law of attraction’ in detail. 

Let’s use the robot vacuum cleaner as a metaphor for describing in simple terms how this stuff works. If the robot was vibrating at the frequency of anger as it met the wall in a room, it would keep hitting the wall, never get anywhere and probably explode. If it was vibrating at the frequency of love or acceptance, it would bounce off the wall and go elsewhere (which it mostly does – not that I have one). The great thing about this understanding is that it takes you out of judgement and bias, as the higher your frequency is, you naturally move away from what doesn’t resonate with you and towards what does. Frequency does not have a class, colour, gender, sexual preference, status, or age, it applies to everyone across the board.

To get a deeper understanding of where you are vibrationally, if you consider the last few months and how you’ve responded to people and situations generally, it will give you a sense of where you are. 

I remember saying to someone many years ago, “I don’t know many couples who are happily married” and their response was, “that’s because we surround ourselves with similar people ''. When you start to question who you really are, how you feel and if life is what you want it to be, understanding frequency can help you to level up and start to change your experience and environment.

The time couldn’t be more perfect to deepen our awareness as the whole planet is going through a massive shift in consciousness right now. The drama, violence, ridiculous demands, programming, and fear narrative are all inviting us to question everything, get to know who we truly are and what we are here to create.

We are being invited to higher levels of consciousness where love reigns supreme and to move away from lower levels of human bickering, drama, chaos and fear. 

The Drama Triangle (by Stephen Karpman, which is used in Transactional Analysis therapy) is a brilliant way of understanding how we get drawn into drama, which keeps us stuck in a cycle of distraction and negativity. Just watch any soap or TV drama and you will see this being played out over and over. The drama keeps on escalating in order to keep people glued to the box - I’m sure nobody was killed in Coronation Street in the sixties and seventies! There are three roles in the drama triangle and most people have a preference, they are:

Persecutor: “it’s all your fault” - blames others, tending to be controlling, critical and oppressive.

Rescuer: “let me help you” – they often feel guilty if they don’t run to the rescue and then can become the persecutor if their help isn’t accepted.

Victim: “poor me” - feels that they can’t do anything about the situation and everything is futile. They are often persecuted or rescued in the drama, but can also seek help from a rescuer to perpetuate their feelings of uselessness.  It is also the way a large number of the population feel when they listen to the news (which is by design).

All these roles are “one up, one down” and so they are never seen as equal. In the worst-case scenario, they can all turn on each other and chaos and explosions ensue. The only way to step out of the drama and find resolution is to be in “adult”, seeing everyone as equal and taking responsibility, not getting tangled or judging and walking away if an aligned way forward is not possible.

When you become aware of your predilection when a drama arises and the corresponding vibration, it can help you to start to change how you respond and what you need to be aware of for change to take place.

Look around you, what’s the frequency of the people in your life? What is the vibe of your tribe? How is it supporting or draining you? What has to change, what can stay and what must go? It is time to release and let go of thought patterns and emotional patterns that no longer serve you as these will keep you in a lower vibrational state and out of resonance with what you truly seek.

As you move up the frequency ladder, your ability to resonate with and manifest your heart’s desire gets easier and easier.  When there’s a relational high frequency match, you flow with ease, experiencing a deep knowing of true connection and unforeseen possibilities and potentiality.

This is an invitation to keep on awakening and connecting more deeply with the truth of who you are. Together we will raise the frequency on this planet and find the peace that we truly desire.

Much love

Pauline