what can we do
to stop perpetuating the abuse
Hi everyone
Thank you very much for being here today.
I was thinking this morning, “why do I do these videos, what is it that drives me to sit here and talk to you?” I've always been a sharer and the more I experience life in love (I didn't a long time ago), the more I want to share what I see and the opportunities that I see for us to change what's happening in this world and how we experience life.
We can all see very challenging and difficult things that are happening and quite often I hear people say, ‘well what can I do about it’ and we can do a lot. So today I wanted to share a few things that bring some awareness of what we do and how, through this awareness, we can start to change things by seeing it by knowing it.
A friend of mine told me a story a while ago and it was about two ladies having a conversation - one of the women was white and the other one was Asian. They were talking about how they saw each other, and the white lady said to the Asian lady, “I see you as exotic” and the Asian lady got quite angry and was insulted by that. She felt that the white lady had said this purely because she was Asian. Now I don't know what was going on for her, but in that moment maybe all the negative racist things she experienced in her life came to the front, and I would imagine that the other lady wasn't insulting her and felt that she was actually giving her a compliment. I said to my friend, “wow I'd really love it if somebody said I was exotic”, and my friend said, “well you would, because you're white” and in that moment there was all of this stuff that is about seeing people as a race as we have been conditioned to do. Every single person involved in that, including me bringing this to you, is bringing all of that into the present moment and yet we have an opportunity to stop it.
So the reason I'm sharing this is to become aware of something that triggers you, that brings about a reaction that may not be to do with what's happening right now, or right in front of you at the time that it happens and that can be so powerful. When we become aware of things, then we can actually stop them and if everybody did that, then there would be less and less of the abuse that goes on in this world because we perpetuate it. So, if we perpetuate it, then we can stop it. You might say well I can stop it, but there's so many people who don't and that might be true, but if you change then you will impact somebody else undoubtedly. If your experience of life is more in love, is lighter, you will impact somebody absolutely - it may not be the way you see it and it may not be the way you want it to be, but undoubtedly something will shift because this is about frequency and the frequency of love and authenticity are extremely high. They go beyond any intellect, any logic and it impacts others.
So when do we start? We start with us and we can start now, but we can only start when we become aware of how we get involved, how we behave and that happened to me this morning, a brilliant opportunity to share something with you that was really uncomfortable for me. I was at home with my daughter, and we were both getting ready -she was getting ready to go to work I was getting ready to take the dog out and we had a conversation. We both started to get angry with each other - we used to trigger each other a lot years ago and it hasn't happened for ages - and this morning because we were both tired, something happened and we got angry. I ended up swearing at her and then saying goodbye and left the house. I felt so sad my heart was actually aching, I felt awful. I knew that that wasn't the way I wanted to speak with my lovely daughter. I knew that that wasn't helpful, but it happened, and it does happen you know. We make mistakes, we get angry, we also have a chance to put it right and so I apologised to her, and she apologised to me and then we both cried because we felt so sad. We talked and then we felt OK. We have the opportunity to do this in every area of our lives. I felt really self-righteous and thought I’m not apologising and then I felt the ache in my heart, and I knew it wasn't right.
When we become aware of our role in this world, we can stop looking outside and saying well they all do this so I'm going to carry on doing it, because where will that get us? Absolutely nowhere. You might say, well there’s terrible wars going on and there are and if you can't do anything about that, then start with you. Start with right now, what is possible for you to be more in love, to be more in love with you.
When you become aware of your inner narrative - the things that you say to yourself and it's quite difficult to become aware because you're used to it. It's a bit like having a fan on and if you've been in a room and there's a fan on you don't hear it, or maybe somebody says why is the fan and you go oh yes there's a fan on - it's the same thing. You may be saying you're not a very nice person and you don't even know it, but it's not true. So that's what doing the inner work is all about, it’s being more of the love, the freedom, the light that you truly are, because that's what we all truly are. We don't have to go and get freedom, we don't have to be given freedom, we are free and so what is possible for you to start to change what is happening in this world?
I want to end this video by thanking Victoria from North Star Lodge very much for sharing this beautiful space with me. It's a gorgeous place on the outskirts of Whitstable, Kent and I'll put a link below if you want to know more about it. It’s a place of high frequency, energy, love, and light so thank you very much Victoria for sharing it with me.
Much love and I'll see you all soon.
Pauline