how sovereign are you?
and why it matters
Hi everyone
Thank you for being here.
I want to talk today about being sovereign and what that really means. Most of us will make the association with a member of the royal family, and who would want to be part of that unlucky bunch right now(!), or you might associate it with a coin. I think it's a great way of describing somebody who really knows who they are, really knows what they want, what they don't want, what they like and what they don't like, and they are unwavering in that. But also, open to talking about things, so there's a sense of peace and grace with someone who is sovereign.
We're really being challenged right now on that, in how sovereign we are around the decisions that we make every single day. The challenge and the pressure around that is really ramping up and it really started with the COVID vaccine. It actually started a long time ago, however, that's the most significant recent challenge for people to be sovereign and to make decisions that are based on what they want and what they feel is right for them.
The definition of being sovereign is: a person who has supreme power and authority. So, if someone has power and authority over you, then they make decisions for you and that might not always be in your best interests. If you are sovereign and you make decisions for you that are in your best interests, then you live a life that is peaceful, that is graceful, that is powerful, that is amazing, and you are unstoppable when you are sovereign. You know what you want and the challenge that we've had recently, in the last few years, is a significant pressure to do something for other people, because it's in the best interests of other people and now we're finding out that that is not true.
Being sovereign is now a massive opportunity to learn about what you want and what you don't want, what you like and what you don't like, because when you do that, life is so much more interesting and it's easier.
We've been conditioned through many organisations and through our families, not to be sovereign. A wonderful friend of mine told me the other day about enmeshment and I'd never really heard of it in this context, but enmeshment is around doing things a certain way because you're a member of a family where there are no boundaries, so this is the way we do things in this family and if you don't agree with that then you might not be in the family anymore. Or if you're in a club and people do things a certain way but you don't agree with all of it, can you say that? Can you say you don't agree, or will you no longer be in the club? I think in particular at school we are often enmeshed, sometimes in good ways when there's strong values around being compassionate and being someone who doesn't treat others badly, that kind of thing, but when it comes down to say, as an example, your child eats food at school and is forced to eat things because, “that's what we do in this school, we clear our plates of everything and you have to eat it”. That's going to be really uncomfortable if a child doesn't like the food that's on the plate. I know I've experienced that, and I know my children have experienced it. So, enmeshment feels awkward, uncomfortable, especially if you don't agree, but there's a fear behind it, then people go along with it. Especially in families, “this is the way we do things around here” and if you don't, then you're the black sheep, or you're weird or we don't like you, or we'll all gang up on you, or to varying degrees you get really challenged on what you believe to be true. We don't all believe the same things, why would we?
We are all unique, we are meant to be sovereign. We are meant to like different things and not like different things, it's OK, but as the fear is ramping up on this planet, people are getting more scared to be different, and some people are feeling the invitation to be different and to say what they feel. I had a conversation with someone, and they were really trying to get me to change my mind about something and there was no way I would because I didn't feel that what they were suggesting was right and so I'm not going to agree and it's OK. But it's almost not been OK in some circumstances too.
The biggest example I can think of right now is climate change - it's almost like a cult. It's such an agenda, it's such a lie, it is propaganda of the highest form. If you say that climate change is not true and it is true to certain extent, because it does change, but not as dramatically or as horrifically as we are told so that we feel guilty about it and it's the guilt that is perpetuated through many things through enmeshment, through believing something that quite a lot of people now don't believe, quite a lot of people are now questioning climate change, questioning the propaganda and the narrative that is to keep us in fear.
This is not what it's about, this is not how life is meant to be. Truly, we are here to create, we are here to be unique, we are here to be sovereign. When you think about the different areas of your life, you may be more sovereign in one than another. I know that I was, I was more sovereign at work than I was at home and then in different areas of work and home too, but now I know I'm sovereign in all areas of my life and it feels so great, it feels powerful, it feels unstoppable. So, I am here to help people, to share my experiences and to show them what being sovereign is and invite you to be sovereign.
Where are you enmeshed? If you think about your family, or work, or your friends, or if you're in a club, if you go to church - where are you enmeshed in beliefs, in situations in agendas maybe, ways of doing things that really don't work for you and they can be really small and insignificant. But if it is food as an example and you're eating something you don't like, your body knows that, and it will react in some way. So, it's really feeling into what works for you and what doesn't and speaking your truth. Sometimes we don't know our truth, what it is and so you feel something is off, you feel it in your body you know. When you have that feeling, the invitation is to say something, say something that you believe may not be well received, but if it's communicated in a calm and peaceful way, it can be so powerful, and you will feel it. That sovereignty starts to build up in your body, your soul and your feelings and nobody can knock it down. If you don't like something, you ask someone to stop. If they don't stop, you walk away. Don't try and change the whole world - this is often what people do, they go out and maybe protest about climate change, but what is their home life like? Are they sovereign, are they truthful and a peaceful - often not. I have known quite a few people who do this kind of thing and then get drunk a lot and don't behave well, because they're out of alignment.
Being sovereign is bringing yourself into alignment with who you are, with nature and then you will challenge things that are not right, then you will stand up for other people when they can't stand up for themselves, or they feel they can't stand up for themselves. You can be compassionate, caring and supportive and yet so powerful.
Enjoy practising.
Much love
Pauline